Kunzite : A Modern Stone

Many people on a spiritual path believe that to truly evolve, they must never get angry, they must never refuse the demands of others, even if these demands seem unreasonable.

Kunzite can mediate between the heart that says, "yes" and the mind that says "not on your life." It tells us that there are times when anger may be a loving response, and that sometimes to not express it is an act of unkindness. It tells us when saying no is a loving choice. It helps us to set wise boundaries.

This stone is part of the heart triad that also includes Rose Quartz and Pink Tourmaline. Rose Quartz heals the wounds of the heart and allows us to experience unconditional love
for ourselves. Pink Tourmaline enables us to give unconditional love to others.

Kunzite is the catalyst for the transformation of self-love into love's external expression. It's a stone of balance, creating a state of emotional calmness, security, and maturity.

In appearance it's a flat crystal with parallel striations (ridges) running its length. Tourmaline, Topaz, and Beryl (Aquamarine, Morganite, and others) share this characteristic. Energy runs through such stones at a rapid rate, making them helpful for dissolving energy blockages.

Kunzite's colour is a lavender-pink. This indicates its ability to help blend the energies of mind (purple) and heart (pink).

In meditation, Kunzite can be placed on the heart chakra, either alone or with Rose Quartz and Pink Tourmaline or Pink Calcite. It can also be placed on the third eye, with Rose Quartz on the heart centre, to further blend the energies of heart and mind.

It's a wonderful stone to give to anyone who is experiencing emotional confusion, a troubled mental state, or putting unrealistic (and unloving) demands on themselves.

Rose Quartz for Romance

As mentioned earlier, rose quartz is often associated with Venus the goddess of love, so this makes a perfect crystal for inspiring romance. There are many ways that you can use it to strengthen and inspire romantic love such as:

Keep a rose quartz in your bedroom, or on a bedside table.

Wear a rose quartz pendant, or keep one in your pocket to help open the heart chakra and inspire feelings of love.

When having a romantic dinner for two at home, create a decorative center piece that includes one or more rose quartz crystals, or place arrange several of them in a shallow glass bowl that is filled with rose petals.

Place a rose quartz in your bath water to help invoke feelings of love. This can also be a very helpful way to release any feelings of negativity and promote inner peace.

Using Crystals in Your Daily Life

When working with a crystal, don’t be limited by how you think it should be. Instead, feel for rightness of what wants to take place at that time.

Working with crystals is only limited by your imagination. Carrying them with you or wearing them mounted in jewellery or in a pouch is the best way to get their vibration working with you. In this way, you become attuned to the crystal energy and can receive its insight and gifts very quickly. Tumbled stones are good for carrying in the pocket as they don’t damage as easily as other crystals.

Taping a stone to your body is a good way to get the energy of the crystal right to the blocked area. While this can be done at anytime, it is probably best to do this before going to sleep. You can invite the stones into dreamtime with you to provide insight about the block. Sleeping with them under your pillow or having them on your nightstand also allows them to support you during dreamtime.

If you are able to have a stone where you work, this can increase your levels of peace and relaxation on the job. A clear quartz cluster is great for the office and helps group communication. Keeping a stone or two by your phone gives you something to hold while on some of those stressful phone calls.

Provided you know which of your stones like water, you can invite them into the bath with you and absorb their essence in this manner. Elixirs are also a good method of receiving the crystal vibration into your energy field as long as you know what minerals are safe to use.

Crystals can be used in the garden to anchor light on your property. You can bury them in the earth or just leave them out on the ground. Houseplants also love the crystals, so planting a few in pots enlivens the plants, not to mention the faeries and elementals.

Meditating with crystals often transports you into a deeper state of meditation. They are great for activating our chakras to allow more light into the body, to increase our sense of peace, to provide us important messages, and much more. If you listen closely, you may actually hear their sounds, their essences.

Blue Lace Agate for Self Awareness

Blue lace agate is a nurturing stone which can encourage self awareness and courage. It is believed to be a very good healer of the throat and can help you to communicate and express you self. Its light cooling energy is good for diffusing anger and will help dissipate the build up of energy allowing situations to come to the surface gently and calmly. It’s a uplifting stone but with a calming affect which makes it ideal for wearing during stressful times. It is said that the cooling energy from this stone can dissipate heat found in a fever, infections and inflammation. This stone can benefit the panaceas, the thyroid, and parathyroid. It’s said to help heal bones and benefit the skeletal system, as well as helping the brain and balancing the brain fluids.

Crystals, Stones and Personal Growth

By themselves, crystals and stones do not make you a better person or a different person from what you are. But they do resonate with the subtle energy of your inner self, your attitudes or human qualities, to make them stronger and more intense, so it becomes more obvious to you what is going on inside. This makes it easier for you to see who you are and what you want to change about yourself in order to become a better person. But keep in mind that your attitudes don't change unless you want them to, and that you are the one responsible for any growth you do. A stone can only amplify an aspect of who you already are. To grow as a person you must do the work yourself.

Crystals and stones can be of really good help in personal growth, but keep in mind that they are not magic. What they do is give you an edge in growth because of how the vibrations of their crystalline structure interact with the inner self. Crystals and stones have the ability to resonate with the different energies of the inner self, thereby strengthening those energies. This additional strength gives you the internal boost your energies need to make it easier to take steps towards growth. It gives you the extra insight and determination you need to take the leap of faith that is necessary in adopting a new attitude. It also gives you the strength to not be afraid to change something about yourself. But in spite of all this, you must still do the actual learning and growing.

The magical qualities of crystals and stones lies in the effect they have on people. Because of how they work, crystals and stones have the ability to make someone feel more positive, feel better about life. Among other things, the way they interact with a person's inner self enhances the human qualities of loving and caring, which are often considered rather magical in themselves. Crystals and stones are really considered magical only because they enhance the magic that already exists in people's lives.

Healing Crystals for Self Esteem

Self-Esteem is just what is it. Well it is the way we see ourselves for instance. Liking you for who you are. Knowing your strengths and also knowing that you are a worthy person.

Some of the things that we use to judge our self-esteem levels:

It is how you see your value as a person.
How you think others see you and how you feel about it.
Where you fit in and your purpose in life
The type of job you do and how happy you are doing it.
Things that you have or have not achieved in your life.
How you see your potential for success.
Whether you can stand on your own two feet.
How independent you feel and are.

Low Self-Esteem is caused by all your negative and defeating emotions about yourself. Not Good Enough- No Self-Confidence-Unhappy etc.

High Self-Esteem is brought about by your positive feelings about yourself. Confident-Happy-Sure of Yourself etc.

There is also another side to Self-Esteem and that is:

"Excessive Self-Esteem" this can show up as being Over-Confident-Superior Attitude- Bragging. Some recent studies have shown that Bullying may not be due to "Low Self-Esteem" as has been the long held reason, but to actually due to "Excessive Self-Esteem" being better than anyone else. (This is just some information that I have come across and if you or anyone you know of has ever suffered from low self-esteem it seems to make sense. Well it does to me).

There are some things that we can do to help us improve our Self-Esteem:

Forgive yourself when you make a mistake.
Be Proud and Happy about your strengths and achievements
Stop putting yourself down.
Don't feel guilty about what you think or feel are your weaknesses learn from them.
Stop judging yourself by unreasonable high standards. Not everyone is the same and that does not mean that you are not as good as the next person.

We bring Low Self-Esteem on ourselves mainly by devaluing our own worth and judging ourselves by others.

Here are a list of Healing Crystals that will help you with your Self-Esteem issues.

Moss Agate: Strengthens Positive Personal Traits, Improve Ego, Brings Emotional Balance, Allows you to see the beauty in all things.

Amazonite: Balance Emotions, Brings Positive Energy, Helps bring and keep Universal Love.

Citrine: Removes Negativity, Promotes Optimism, Balances the Emotions and provides for a Happy Disposition.

Hematite: Helps to Sort Things Out, Dissolves Negativity, Promotes Inner Happiness and helps to remove Self-Limiting Ideas.

Sodalite: Encourages Self-Esteem and Self-Trust, Brings Truth to our Emotions and provides Direction and Purpose.

You can wear the healing crystals or carry them on your person. Place them in your work or home environment. Remember to cleanse them from time to time (no need to clean Citrine as it is self Cleaning and if you use it with other healing crystals it will clean them as well.)You will know when you no longer need the crystals to help you heal.

How to Use Crystals for Healing

By wearing the crystals throughout the day for 21 days - preferably as a full necklace, as a pendant, or in a small pouch at the Heart Chakra -the vibrations of the crystals will continue to affect areas of the imbalance, restoring a positive state where the imbalance has occurred. The effects of crystal healing at the emotional and psychological levels are subtle, yet are often noticed more by others than yourself.

The Cleansing Process

The first step is the cleansing process. In first week or so, the crystal is making tremendous adjustments within your energy field, matching the matrix of your energy fields to a larger
outer universal energy field which will be used in your healing.

It is important to keep the crystal on you all the time (24 hours a day) for at least the first 21 days for this cleansing process to be initiated and completed. This is also a period of time where the blockages of energy that are causing the imbalance are removed.

Sometimes a healing crisis occurs at this point, during the early days of wearing the crystal. Remember, resolving the inner conflict may take time and that crystals accelerate the change process. Allow these processes to occur without interruption, by continuously wearing the
stone or crystal until you complete the next two steps.

It is a good idea to cleanse your crystal every week and to recharge it in the sunlight for at least four hours weekly through out the healing process.

Harmonizing and Integrating

The second step in crystal healing is the process of harmonizing and integrating the changes into your whole being. You may notice physical and emotional changes in either of the first or second steps as your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies come into alignment. Some of these changes are caused by throwing off toxins and negative energies from the cleansing process which continues throughout the cycle of healing.

In the second stage, beginning in about the fourth week of wearing the stone or crystal, you may notice that your face looks more relaxed as the harmonizing connection is made within yourself. Your mental outlook, thoughts, feelings and even opinions may change significantly. All aspects of your energy will be activated and the result is a very positive feeling. However, you are not out of the woods yet.

Stability

The third step can take three to four months, perhaps even longer for some people depending on the intensity of the original condition. With continuous wearing of the stones or crystals, you will
achieve stability for the changes. There is no turning back at this point. You can test out the stability by removing your crystals from time to time. If you feel desperate and need to put your crystals back on after only a few minutes, you are not even close to stabilizing the energy changes. If you are able to go for a few days without your stones, but then notice you are slipping back into your old ways, consider wearing your stones for another week or more, or only at bedtime before testing again. As you develop deeper sensitivity for crystal energy, you may decide to keep the crystals on much longer.

Some Hints On Crystal Healing

Your commitment to the crystal is part of the healing process. Let the crystal do the work for you.

It is best not to wear more than two crystals at any one time if you are new to crystal healing, as many find the effects too distracting. The length of time to obtain the effects desired will depend on the quality of the crystal (size, colour, energy charge), location of wear, duration, and the crystal's appropriateness to your healing issue. Some crystals are better suited to the overall underlying problem than to just treat superficial symptoms. Select your crystal with an honest outlook on the problem.